“Love Is The Beauty Of The Soul”
Valentine’s Day is coming up soon. It’s a day that we honor and recognize the important people in our lives; the people we love. We purchase something special for a loved one or go out of our way to do something that demonstrates our affection. We give flowers, chocolate, greeting cards to those we adore to let them know just how much we care. And we truly enjoy showing our affection to the special people in our lives.
It’s a well-documented fact that being in love is good for us. But what about loving ourselves?
Louise Hay said, “I found that there is only one thing that heals every problem, and that is: to know how to love yourself.” When people start to love themselves more each day, it’s amazing how their lives get better. They feel better. They get the jobs they want. They have the money they need. Their relationships either improve, or the negative ones dissolve and new ones begin’.
Because loving ourselves is essential for our overall well-being, happiness and success, it seems obvious that we should focus our energy and intention on falling in love with ourselves. It sounds simple, but I find it difficult to love ourselves.
Louise Hay defines love as ‘deep appreciation’. With that definition in mind, how do we nurture this deep appreciation for ourselves?
Certainly, we need to accept ourselves as who we are with all our flaws, weaknesses and failures. But here’s where the demons step in and take over. For its one thing to say we love ourselves, but believing it, acting on it, and demonstrating that deep appreciation for ourselves is in reality much easier said than done.
Just as any good relationship requires attention and needs to be nurtured over time, so does the relationship you have with yourself.
Here’s how you can learn to love yourself and nurture a deep appreciation for who you are:
Do something nice for yourself on a regular basis. Buy yourself flowers, book a massage or facial, go to the theatre, or take a vacation. Show yourself how much you appreciate who you are.
Be your own best friend. Talk to yourself the way you’d talk to your best friend. Think about how supportive and empathetic we are with our best friends. Have those encouraging and loving conversations with yourself.
Forgive yourself for your mistakes. You would do that for your best friend. Continually beating yourself up for what you did in the past is not productive. Show compassion and forgiveness.
Understand that failures, mistakes, and set-backs offer valuable lessons. Look for the opportunities to grow professionally and personally from your past and be mindful going forward of how to use these lessons.
Valentine’s Day shouldn’t be the only day on the calendar that we show our deep appreciation for others and ourselves. Make loving yourself a daily habit for your continued well-being, happiness, and success.
Loving Oneself Quotes
“How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.”
– Rupi Kaur-
Love yourself first because that’s who you’ll be spending the rest of your life with.
If you have the ability to love, love yourself first.
– Charles Bukowski –
Your are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. and you are beautiful. – Amy Bloom –
“Loving yourself isn’t vanity, it’s sanity”
Love yourself as much as you want to be loved.
“Love yourself and dream bigger.”
“I’m learning to love myself. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done.”
To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.
-Robert Morely-
You don’t need to be perfect to be good.
Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself.
-Coco Chanel –
Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.
-Brene Brown –
“Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.”
– Robert Holden –
To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.
– Oscar Wilde-
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This is a powerful technique that calms the mind by gently pressing 32 points on your head. It promotes peace-of-mind by way of reduction of anxiety, stress, and depression, resulting in clearer thoughts and an overall feeling of balance and wellbeing.
The 32 points are actual “energy” that runs through and around your head connecting to different aspects of your life. These points are called “bars.” Each bar stores the electromagnetic component of all your thoughts, ideas, attitudes, decisions, and beliefs — they literally access your entire consciousness.
I have always loved numerology and astrology and different ways of receiving more information that has been around for thousand of years. When people talk about stars aligning or history repeating itself, it is fascinating to me. I get excited at the beginning of each year and looked to numerology, year 7 and Chinese year of the animal symbol for signs. This year is of the water rabbit for 2023.
Everything is a gift of the universe – even joy, anger, jealousy, frustration, or separateness. Everything is perfect for our growth or our enjoyment. – Ken Keyes Jr.-
As the end of the 2022 approaches, let’s try to find more positive energy for restoration and peace. Pick a day, any day, and then spend your chosen day looking for the good in everyone you encounter, as if watching a sunrise over the ocean for the first time—no nitpicking. Smile, even if just in your mind. Sometimes we can feel the energy of our smile permeating the space between us. If you can feel this, let the positive energy resonate in you. Then do the same with other things in your environment. Smile as you pass through places, listen to good music or enjoy nature. At the end of the day, notice how good you feel and how much better your energy is rather than if you’d gotten into a clash with a co-worker or a total stranger ringing up your purchases at a department store.
A simple smile. That’s the start of opening your heart and being compassionate to other. Dalai Lama –
As spiritual beings having human experiences, we are on an important mission to learn and grow here on earth. 
“When you realize there is no lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” – Lao Tzu –
Every autumn, nature puts on a brilliant show of colors. Definitely fall brings different memories and feelings.
Doesn’t autumn feel nostalgic? There is something about the crisp autumn air that makes the days a little more magical. What is not often talked about though are the melancholy feelings of autumn. There is often this underlying feeling of sadness, that is difficult to put your finger on, like a longing for the summer months. There is an unsettled energy and a sense of urgency to get everything done before winter. The process is easier if you can embrace the full range of emotions that you’re feeling this during season.
Autumn shows us how beautiful it is to let things go.
To live in your truth simply means to live as your most authentic self, things that bring you happiness and joy each day.
Authenticity requires vulnerability, transparency and integrity.
Every day, once a day, give yourself a gift. Don’t plan it, don’t wait for it, just let it happen. It could be a new top, a catnap on the couch or on a comfy chair on the deck, or two cups of hot, Chai Tea.”
The greatest gift you can give yourself is self love.
I have been working through the gift of acceptance these last almost five months. My fractured knee cap and all the rehab is like a full time job. The reminders every min of the day the comparison of my two legs how they work differently and go from the past and forward to now but challenged to fully swing to the future 1 to 2 years down the road. The future is whereby having full range of motion, getting on my knees, going up and down stairs effortlessly, seems like light years away. I do know other people that have had similar injuries, healed fully, but has been a few years not months where I am currently residing. It’s really interesting how I am fixated on people’s knee caps now. (tee hee) Here are five things about acceptance I am working on:
In the springtime, the Earth is waking up from her dream and everything bursts forward to grow. Think about the flowers and trees, how they awaken and come back to life in the spring. Just as rains fertilize Mother Earth, water also fertilizes the hearts of humans causing the flower of the heart, to open, so we can become wiser and more beautiful. Our heart is dormant during the winter like everything in nature – resting. This is a good thing. It is being charged up to awaken and arise in the spring; as the earth is waking up, we too, wake up.
“If you look the right way, you can see that the whole world is a garden.” – Frances Hodgson Burnett –